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Writing Prompt for Monday, November 7, 2011 – How do you balance your children, relationship, and work life?

Right now, I do the best I can to prioritize my relationships and work. I usually end up skimping on ‘me’ time. I’m good at taking care of other people but I often forget to take care of myself. With work, I prioritize by making sure I get enough sleep before I go so that I can be awake and do my best while I’m at the office. I feel like I give a lot of my time and energy towards work. Typically I get up at 6:30 am and I don’t get home until 6:30 pm.

During the evenings and the weekend I devote most of my energy to my relationships. I devote several hours to blogging, since that’s my passion. With the leftover scraps of time, I clean house, do laundry, etc. I tend to go to bed between 10 pm and 11 pm during the week.

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It can be really hard. I don’t feel like I see or talk to friends often enough.I know I don’t call people enough. I try to email. I usually make sure anything I do with friends I include Ray or Dave or both, and even incorporate the dogs if I have a choice. Like last Friday night, Ray and Phaedra and I went to spend time with friends and play Rocksmith.

I can’t imagine how I would prioritize things if I had children. Something would have to give. Probably my sanity.

Sometimes I miss the schedule I kept for several years. I went to bed at 1 am, got up at 8:30 am, got to work by 9:30 am.

Tell me, how do you balance your life? What do you prioritize?

  • From our partners
    • http://thebloggingvalley.wordpress.com/ Jackie Paulson

      I hear ya on the skimp on the Me time, it’s almost like a requirement in today’s age. Women have to do so much these days, chores, kids, work, errands, etc…and still remain saign,… LOL I am a “sleep” person too, where I have to have so many hours a day,. so if I get 6 hours for a couple of days, on my day off I tend to do “make up sleep time” and sleep more than 10 hours, it’s just the way my body is. Plus I work odd hours so my eating and sleep are way off. Great post today.

      • Phyrra

        Yeah I can’t really do 6 hours because of health issues :( I try to never get less than 7. I’m glad you can relate! I was worried people might think I was being whiny. I really am grateful for the life I’m living, my relationships and my friends. I just wish I had more time (but who doesn’t?).

    • Liz

      I am married, I work full time and I have a 4 year old. My husband and I work opposite shifts and we have one day off together (Saturday). It’s not easy, and yet the few times a year that I do have “me” time, I don’t know what to do with myself in the absence of all the chaos, lol. I must have enough sleep or I’m a mess – I try to get at least 7 hours. But I have to get myself to work and give 110% there, then what is left of the day is spent caring for my kiddo and getting ready for the next day, with phone calls to my hubby in between. We’ve started making time for ourselves as a couple at least once a month, and we make sure we spend our one day off doing things as a family. I’m trying to figure out how I’m going to finish school and have another little one in the next few years. Should be interesting!

      • Phyrra

        Yay for you making couple time! I need to do that more.

    • http://manicuredslayer.blogspot.com ManicuredSlayer

      You are so not whiney! There never is enough time for everything.

      I think for me, since I have both kids and a disability, IRL friends are a rare event. It’s one reason the internet is so valuable to me. I am able to keep in touch with “IRL” friends and my online friends (who are just as precious to me). And back when I had PPD with my daughter my husband forced me to start with “me time” which helped save my sanity.

      Having my husband be so supportive and understanding is the only reason things work at all here. I just could not do it all. My kids chip in a ton too–esp my teenager (it drives me bonkers when I hear about kids who don’t help at home).

      My sister is a single mom and I have NO clue how she does it. My nephew’s dad has to work in NOLA and can only be home once a month (stupid stupid economy). I am in awe of how she juggles it all.

      • Phyrra

        It’s awesome that your family helps you out. Sometimes I feel like I try to take on too much :/

    • http://judixo.blogspot.com Judi

      This is a hard question for me. Working from home, I find it hard to separate home time and work time. This is embarrassing to admit, especially since I’m native to my town, but I don’t have a lot of friends. A tiny handful, and they usually flake on me, and no one really calls me, so mostly I just hang out with my boyfriend or I am online. I can’t imagine having to juggle a full social life + boyfriend. When I do get invited out I try to include him, but he’s 14 years older than me and I think the age gap makes him uncomfortable being around my friends, forget going to an alternative club with me. :p

      So I guess I try to prioritize my “me” time. Even if it means going to bed late, I have to take time to do the things I enjoy to give myself a little sanity.

      • Phyrra

        I really wish I could work from home full time. It’s awesome that you can. I wonder if there’s a way for you to help your boyfriend to be more comfortable around your friends?