As I’m sure you’ve heard many times over, you should be yourself. I just went to one of my best friend’s college graduation. The main speaker, Mary Spio, was very inspiring. She spoke about how you should be yourself. Don’t diminish your dreams to fit someone else’s. Don’t let someone else’s negativity weigh you down or hold you back. Don’t let labels define you.
If you want to have rainbow hair, you should do it. Don’t let your fears of what your friends and family would say stop you. If you’re working at a career that wouldn’t allow rainbow hair, be realistic about it and get clip-in hair or wigs. You can now get full hair extenion clip-in sets from I Kick Shins(not an affiliate link), my absolute favorite place to buy custom braids and extensions and hair falls.
If you want to have hair in the normal hair color spectrum, you should do that too! Embrace whatever color makes you happy! If it’s icy blonde, red, rich chocolate brown or inky black, do it! Don’t sit around and go ‘I wish I had the courage to try that.’ Instead, do it! Make it happen!
If you want to wear blue eyeshadow, or rock out with neutrals, wear what makes you happy. Don’t worry about someone else going ‘How tacky! you’d look better in browns.’ Experiment! Try new things! Makeup is all about trying new things. So if you want to color block, do it. If you want to wear a one wash color all over, do it! Or wear the rainbow! Look at people like Lauren the Queen of Blending for inspiration. At the very worst, if you hate it you can wash it off and start all over again.
I dye my hair whatever color I want because it makes me happy. I do it for myself, not someone else. I wear whatever makeup I want – bright or dark – because it makes me happy and it’s what I want. I don’t do it for someone else.
You’re in charge of you.
Every day I see someone on Pinterest, Instagram, Twitter, etc. lamenting that they don’t have the confidence to wear the clothes they want, bright makeup or dye their hair. We hear about Makeup Rules – about what people should or should not do. Well guess what! You’re in charge of what you can and can’t wear. No one else is. You are.
If you are someone who is shy, has anxiety, or lacks confidence in expressing yourself, I can tell you from my experience that having bright hair has been an advantage for me. Any time I go out, I get compliments on my hair. At conventions, people come up and talk to me. it’s a great way to help boost your self confidence. It helps you to learn to express yourself more. If you’re not confident enough to start with bright hair, try bright eyeliner to begin, then move on to bold eyeshadow. Clip-in streaks for hair also work great for this too, not only for work/school but also if you’re not ready to take the plunge and bleach and dye your hair.
Don’t let labels define you.
Humans like to classify things. People like labels. Labels make things easier for our minds to process. But it’s far too easy to be pigeon holed because of labels. Labels can be a good starting point, but don’t let them hold you back. Dress how you like. Wear what you want. Do what makes YOU happy. Don’t worry so much about the people next door gossiping. They’re not important. This has been a hard lesson for me to learn, but it’s true.
Be yourself, not a second rate version of someone else.
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